In this episode Mark interviews Denise Massar about her memoir
"Matched," about adoption, and about the work being done to find
the right publisher for the manuscript.
Prior to the interview, Mark shares comments from recent
episodes, a personal update and a word from this episode's
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During their conversation, Mark and Denise talk about:
- Denise's memoir about adoption called "Matched"
- The process of private domestic newborn adoption and how it is
different than the systems used to be
- How competitive the process is
- How adoptive parents are tasked 100% with finding their own
- The diverse range of women in a position of being pregnant and
not wanting to keep their baby
- How the search for a birth mother can feel seedy
- Adoption being a hot-button topic, potentially as hot-button as
the topic of abortion
- Seeing how an open adoption could be, with Denise's son Henry,
and comparing that to her own adoption, which was
- How easy it was for both Denise and Mark to find their birth
mothers thanks to the opening up of information, and the
- The impact of the "yes, I am your mother" message Denise was
- Calling the mother who raised her, her mother, and her birth
mom her birth mother
- How Denise has always been a writer, and that she got her MFA
in writing, but that this memoir was her first tangle product
- The process of finding a publisher for her memoir which was an
unexpected journey after finishing the book
- Hiring Jane Friedman to critique her query letter
- What a book proposal is, what "comp titles" are
- The popular "adoption wheel" of shame/depression/etc
- The agent query process for Denise
- How the book went out on submission the day that most of the
United States went into pandemic lock-down in 2020
- The importance of an author being seen as current and relevant
by a potential publisher
- The title "Matched" and consideration of creating a more
intuitive/SEO based title for the book
- And more...
After the interview Mark reflects on the concept of how an
editor goes to bat for a book at the editorial round table and
other concepts discussed in the interview.
Links of Interest:
Denise Massar, an adoptee and adoptive mom,
lives in Orange County, California with her husband and three kids.
A Washington State native, she earned her MA in English Literature
from Central Washington University. Denise enjoys: Thrift store
wandering, reading in bed with Aussie licorice (red), sweaty spin
classes, salt air, and the belly laughs of her kids.
The introductory, end, and bumper music for this podcast
(“Laser Groove”) was composed and produced by Kevin MacLeod of
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